Address code review findings across API, web and deployment

High severity:
- wire TRUSTED_PROXY through Compose/deploy/docs and warn at web startup
- bucket public rate limits on effective client IP, add per-bookmark budget,
  and forward the signed browser identity from the share page
- disable first-run bootstrap in server deployments and document seeding
- serialize last-admin demotion in one advisory-locked transaction

Medium/low:
- cap and batch share recipient inserts
- add a shared outbound budget for preview/CardDAV/IMAP/signal work
- pin CardDAV dials to 443 and bound IMAP logout
- fix rightward kanban column drags and normalize cards on column delete
- classify backend outages in auth guards, add request timeouts and an
  error boundary, remove the dead login route, surface throttling
- enforce pinned/unpinned page reorder grouping server-side
- avoid preview work for stale bookmark versions; drop duplicate dialog fetch
- sequence-guard collection/tag/calendar/quick-find loads
- validate property config and fix MULTI_SELECT/DATE filter inputs
- document index maintenance; apply same-origin check to sign-out
- trim signup names, unique shared dates and kanban keys (migration 010),
  reset reference cache on identity changes, hide OIDC issuer, return 413
  for oversized direct bodies, escape Markdown link destinations
- remove dead template files and duplicate test helper

Verified with go build/vet, full PostgreSQL race suite, db convergence,
tsc, both ESLint configs and a Next production build.

main.go

@@ -34,8 +34,8 @@ func main() {
 		return
 	}
 	cfg := config.Load()
-	if cfg.Secret() == "" {
-		log.Fatal("config: AUTH_SECRET (or NEXTAUTH_SECRET) must be set")
+	if err := cfg.Validate(); err != nil {
+		log.Fatalf("config: %v", err)
 	}
 	d, err := db.New(cfg)
 	if err != nil {